This is What Life is Offering

We have all been taught to react to life rather than respond. We have been deeply conditioned to believe we are in control, trying to “do” life rather than connecting with it. The reacting, controlling, and resisting we do all day long keeps us identified with struggles in our mind, cutting us off from an alive, trust-filled connection with life.

There are four statements that remind me to open to life rather than staying lost in the world of struggle. These statements, especially when life is offering up a challenge, can pull you out of the reactive mind and bring you back to curiosity, spaciousness and kindness that open the door to deep healing.

• This is what life is offering
• It is just a wave passing through
• No need to push it away
• It belongs here

These four statements remind you that you are not a victim to life. The first one, “This is what life is offering” allows you to remember that life is in charge of life. It turns you around from the reactive self to the conscious self, which is open and curious about what this moment is presenting.

You actually do trust life a lot. You trust that it will breathe you, digest your food, and bring a new day. But we have all lost sight of how to trust the ongoing unfolding of our lives, both the joys and the sorrows. The essence of this first statement is encapsulated in Eckhart Tolle’s powerful quote: “Life will give you whatever experience is most helpful for the evolution of your consciousness. How do you know this is the experience you need? Because this is the experience you are having at the moment.”

The second reminds you that absolutely nothing lasts forever, even the difficult parts of life – just a wave passing through…a wave of thought, feeling sensation.

The third invites you to let go of your conditioned resistance and instead, stay open to what life is offering.

And the fourth brings you back to trust.

These statements have been with me a lot since the cancer diagnosis. My mind feels it is a victim to cancer and all the uncomfortable feelings/sensations that go along with it. But these statements remind me that cancer is now my teacher, and I can choose to be a victim or show up for it and, as Eckhart says, cancer is here because it is helpful for the evolution of my consciousness. When I fall into the victim, I suffer. When I remember that the cancer is my teacher, I become fascinated and find myself responding rather than reacting.

While our minds have ideas of how life should be, a deeper part of us knows that whatever is happening in our lives is for us and we don’t need to get caught in reaction. It is not always easy to respond rather than react, and you will get caught over and over again, but that’s okay. You can remind yourself to come back to the present moment by saying whichever of the four statements touches you at that moment or by saying them all. Allow them to be a reminder that the deepest longing you carry is to be fully here for Life.

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