The Most Amazing Things About You and Your Life, Part B

I want to offer you an astounding shift in perception. Pain is not here in our lives because we’ve done something wrong, ‘they’ have done something wrong, or God fell asleep on the job. It is here to guide us out of the very limited world of struggle and control into the world of actually being present for life, both the 10,000 joys and the 10,000 sorrows.

To make this shift from resisting pain to listening to it, it is essential to understand that Earth is a schoolroom, and when you arrived here, you took on a big chunk of the pain that all human beings carry. The challenges of your life, the heartaches of your life, are not here because you didn’t have the right kind of parents, or you don’t have the right-looking body, or you are not as intellectually adept as your co-worker, or your health isn’t great, or your heart has been hurt over and over again. Pain is here to wake us up, and I have the right to say that because I had a hell of a lot of pain in my life. But when I learned how to stop fighting it, when I learned how to listen to it and open to the gifts that are always embedded in the challenges of our lives, I became more whole and more alive.

You can see this truth in a metaphor about shit. If somebody delivered a truckload of shit on your driveway and you spent your time trying to find who to blame or felt like a victim of the shit as you tracked it through your house, it isn’t much fun. But if you get a wheelbarrow and a shovel and you dig this shit into your garden, it grows beautiful plants, flowers, and vegetables.

Changing your relationship to the pains in your life is one of the most powerful steps in becoming free from the addiction to struggle. And what is the core of that shift? Giving your pain space to be here. The universe loves space. It is 4.24 light-years to just the next star in our galaxy. Proxima Centauri, (tor) which is around 25 trillion miles. For perspective, it would take a spacecraft traveling at conventional speeds tens of thousands of years to complete the journey. Just to the next star!!!

Let’s bring this truth of space closer to home. If you blow up an atom to the size of a major league baseball field, the nucleus would be a grain of sand in the center of the field, and the electrons would be dancing around that nucleus, outside of the park. So, atoms are 99.99%  space. And since you are composed of atoms, you are mainly empty space.

When you don’t fight your pain, whether it is physical, emotional, or mental, and instead give it space to be here, then it can pass right through you rather than causing all sorts of havoc in your life. That is why Pema Chödrön calls enlightenment, “relaxing into life.”

Our conditioned self that talks in our head all day long resists, manipulates, and tries to control life. But when you really get what Eckhart Tolle means when he says, “Life will give you whatever experience is most helpful for the evolution of your consciousness. How do you know this is the experience you need? Because this is the experience you are having at the moment,” you then discover how to relax and be curious about whatever is happening. This opens the door to allowing whatever is here to be here, and even if it is the deepest of pain, over time, you discover that you are not those feelings, thoughts, and sensations that are generated by the pain. You are the awareness that can see them.

When you finally recognize this, you see that fighting pain only solidifies it. To allow it to flow through you is where sanity lies. Everything flows in life. Water flows from the sky and down into the seas, evaporating back into the sky. Day flows into night, and winter into spring. Our blood flows along the 60,000 miles of arteries, veins, and capillaries in our bodies.

The only thing that usually doesn’t flow is the human mind, and when you become smarter than its propensity to hold on and push away, you realize the only way to be with life is to relax and let whatever is here to move, and eventually it will pass right on by.

If this resonated with you, and you’d like to explore this more, then I invite you to listen to my podcast on Dreamvisions 7 Radio: The Most Amazing Things About You and Your Life. It will air on Thursday, January 1st at 5am and 5pm HERE. After the 1st, it will be available on demand, along with every other podcast I’ve ever done HERE. Please feel free to explore my catalog and listen to topics that call to you.

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Most of us sleepwalk through our lives, missing this awesomely intelligent and truly amazing adventure that is our life. Join Mary in opening your perception of who you are and what life is about so you can again know the joy of being fully alive.

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Every time I see the news, my heart aches for the pain inflicted on the world by an old kind of mind that doesn’t recognize the sacredness of every particle, of every being. But I also see more and more people awakening to a way of being with life that cares not only for all people but also for the Earth itself.

You are reading this newsletter because you are a part of this awakening. For the holidays, I am offering all my online, self-paced courses for $49 (Ends January 5th). I recognize the restorative messages within them and wish for them to reach more people so they can contribute to the healing of our world. Please consider sharing them with your loved ones as well.

What’s in Your Way IS the Way will show you how to unhook from your mind’s addiction to struggle so you can know the joy of being fully present for life.

Falling In Love with You is all about how to fall in love with you exactly as you are, so you can rest in the compassion, kindness, and empathy that is who you really are.

Being Healed by Our Compulsions changes your relationship to your compulsions from enemy to ally, allowing them to guide you out of the world of struggle and back into the ease and peace that is your birthright.