Love Is!
Why, when Love is our birthright, do most of us live our lives separate from its healing presence? One main reason is that we were conditioned when we were very young to see ourselves through the eyes of non-Love. Love is accepting and honoring. It is allowing and understanding. It sees what is here without any need to change it, and its healing power is phenomenal. Most of us didn’t receive this kind of love when our view of ourselves formed in childhood. Instead, we experienced the kind that says, “I love you if you are…. and if you aren’t, I don’t love you.”
When children are related to in this conditional way, they begin to believe that they need to be different than who they are to be okay. Can you feel the heartache of that? For most of us, we have some level of this story going on in our heads. We focus on what needs to be different about ourselves (our weight, the amount of money we have, the size of our nose, how intelligent we are) rather than meeting ourselves in our hearts. This urge to be different in order to be okay is a big part of what I call the bubble of struggle, and it keeps us cut off from the joy of being fully alive.
Matt Licata, psychotherapist, spiritual teacher and author of A Healing Space Blog (http://alovinghealingspace.blogspot.com) shares his profound wisdom about our deep fears and the healing power of Love:
The despair in not being seen as you are. The shame in feeling that you are not enough and that something is fundamentally wrong with you. The hopelessness that you may always remain alone and misunderstood.
These are the great fears that come as you wake, as you dream, and as you wander along the path of the heart.
How would your experience of life change if you recognized that life loves you exactly as you are? How would your inner conversation change if you realized that ‘getting it all together’ isn’t about being perfect? In fact, imperfection is a necessary part of being a whole human being. It is your humanness that opens you to the truth of Love, not your perfections. And how would your relationship with yourself change if you realized that everybody carries these same ideas that they need to be better or different than what they are? All you have to do is look at the famous people who have either killed themselves or succumbed to the world of alcohol and drugs. Even when you get adulation from the public, it is not enough because you still have these stories in your head that you are not okay as you are, stories that have been there since childhood.
Many of us are now on the journey of waking up out of the dream of separation and into the truth that Love Is! And because you are reading this, you are on that journey too. Don’t try to find it. That is just more struggle. Simply be willing to show up for your life and know that life loves you enough to give you the exact set of experiences you need to see and see through the world of struggle so that you can come home to Love. Know that life is trustable. It is not always likable, but it is trustable.
If this resonated with you, I invite you to join us TOMORROW! For our Free Night on September 15th, Exploring True Empowerment. We will discuss: Most of us think of empowerment as power over. True empowerment is very different from that. Join Mary in exploring the true meaning of empowerment and how to bring it into your life. Click HERE to learn more and register!
And as always, I invite you to listen to my podcast on Dreamvisions 7 Radio: The Joy of No Control! It will air on Thursday, September 17th and 24th at 5am and 5pm HERE. After the 24th, it will be available on demand, along with every other podcast I’ve ever done HERE. Please feel free to explore my catalog and listen to topics that call to you.