Trusting the Process
I was listening to one of my favorite teachers speak about what I alluded to in my book, What’s in the Way IS the Way, when I said, “Life is set up, to bring up, what is bound up, so it can open up, to be freed up, so I can show up for life.”
He was saying that life is always in the process of waking us up out of the dream of struggle by helping us see our conditioned self, rather than believing it to be who we are. His whole talk was all about life itself being our greatest ally. This is in the same vein of what Eckhart Tolle is pointing to when he says, “Life will give you whatever experience is most helpful for the evolution of your consciousness. How do you know this is the experience you need? Because this is the experience you are having at the moment.”
This teacher then went on to state something that felt like scraping nails on a chalkboard. “When we are not willing to see what life is trying to show us, it will keep ramping up the intensity until we are willing to see what we need to see.”
For me, truth always opens us where non-truth tightens and closes us. And this thought tightened me. A subtle message in that quote is, “I didn’t do it good enough or right enough so now life is giving me this bigger challenge.” In other words, when my big challenges come, they come because I was resistant to see what life was trying to show me previously. All that does is feed the judging mind and gets us caught in trying to ‘do’ awakening better.
This is the same take our conditioned mind has on karma…bad things are happening to you because you have done bad things. But maybe, just maybe, what we are talking about is a myopic view of life.
In my experience, life is a slowly evolving process. We don’t understand things in one fell swoop. We get a piece here and a piece there and these pieces build upon themselves. A good illustration of this is how a child needs to learn to add and subtract before he/she/they can eventually learn the skills that will allow them to do algebra. They are not bad or wrong for not understanding algebra when they are young. That is just where they are in the process.
In my bathroom is a quote that came to me at the beginning of my awakening: “Know and silently respect the perfection of everyone and everything, in every situation, especially when it is not at all apparent.” The truth this quote points to has been a guiding light as I slowly discovered how to use my mind for the wonderful tool it is but not be lost in its world. To me the quote is saying, life is smarter than you. You don’t have difficulties because you didn’t do things ‘right’. Difficulties are your teachers and when you can bow to them, you will receive the gifts that are always embedded in them.
I am not asking you to believe what I am offering you. When we first start hearing this truth, our mind will always resist. It has spent its whole life believing it is in charge and if it does it ‘right’, then everything will be okay. Instead, I am inviting you to just open to the possibility that your life is for you. As you allow this truth to permeate your whole being, life will open you in ways you can hardly imagine.
When you discover how to trust that your life is for you, no matter what is showing up, you discover that everything you long for is already here – love, support, wisdom, joy. And then you become one with the magical adventure that is your life!
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