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The Problem Factory

The healing we are ready for doesn’t come from changing anything. It comes from the ability to see and be with what is.

If we are honest with ourselves, we will see that the mind we live in believes the opposite of the statement above. It is a problem factory. It turns even the smallest things into problems and then spends most of its time trying to figure out how to fix them. If it isn’t concerned about the new pimple on your chin, it is concerned about how your neighbor mows his lawn or if your headache will continue throughout the day. These little concerns mushroom into big concerns like “Will I get cancer?” or “Will they reject me?” or “Will I have anything left in my retirement fund?”

If you watch it, you will see that as soon as the mind solves one problem, it comes up with another. And if it can’t solve one, it throws us into despair. I like to say that we are like people sitting in paradise, constantly trying to unravel a ball of yarn – and believing if we just unravel it then everything will be okay. I have news for you. Your life will never be okay trying to make it okay! That is just the game of the problem factory. And the ball of yarn is endless.

What would it be like to take a break from this endless struggle inside and step out of the problem mode? What would it be like to know that there is no ball of yarn to unravel? What would it be like to be able to connect with the ‘paradise’ that is always with us, right here, right now, when we lift our eyes from the ball of struggle?

What allows us to open the door that leads out of struggle is curiosity. The problem factory is all about trying to control life. Curiosity is the willingness to look at what is. When we can look at what we are experiencing without turning it into a problem, magic begins to happen. This is what Rumi is talking about in his poem The Guest House. It is one of his best-known poems, but very few people know the last half of it where it says, “Learn the alchemy that few human beings know, that when you accept what difficulties you have been given the door opens.” This is talking about the place beyond the problem factory of our minds.

When Eckhart Tolle endorsed my book Belonging to Life, he told me that he liked the two mantras ‘What is’ and ‘This too’. “What is” is an invitation to step out of the problem factory and simply notice what is happening right now. “This too” is an invitation to stop fighting what is. It brings you into the healing power of allowing.

So I invite you, just for today, notice how much your mind loves to turn everything into a problem. And for moments, be curious about what is going on right now (What is). Then give it space to be (This too), so it can move through you, and you can rediscover the ‘paradise’ of life that is right here, right now.

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  1. Hi Mary
    I’ve been so sick twice over the summer with a horrific cough. I have turned it in my mind now to a big problem..
    Thinking its Covid. Thinking I am not strong or capable anymore. I watch my two grandchildren for the school year and all I want is to be healthy for them. Thank you for your beautiful words today to try and get my thinking in a different place. I am 71 years old and so want to be a strong and healthy role model.

  2. In my long time, high pressure job with constant deadlines, I had a comic on my wall that said, “Next 10,000 miles, one damn thing after another!” After taking retirement and leaving, I only wish I had had your two mantras at my desk. “What Is and This too.” Life is a serious adventure, but leaving out the adventure and the discovery turns it into a powerhouse of problems, most of which have no solution! I wish I had realized this in those many over serious years, and taken things more lightly. I am not at all sure any of it meant anything at all. Not even a memory. What will matter to me most in the end is my understanding of myself, and sharing as I am, as I always was and always will be. God bless you, Mary! Godspeed!

  3. Thank you Mary,

    This was very helpful. I have your book, ‘Belonging to Life’
    It has inspired me to look into it again.
    Susanna